17 minutes agoAuthor: Virendra Mishra
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Writer-director Seema Kapoor’s autobiography ‘Yun Paari Hai Abhi Talak’ has recently been published. In this book, Seema Kapoor has written about the conflicts and experiences of her life as well as the relationship with Om Puri and the moments that live with him. Recently, Seema Kapoor came to Dainik Bhaskar’s Mumbai office. During this, he talked about his book, Jeevan Sangharsh and the relationship with Om Puri. During this time, he knows what he said ..
First meeting with Om Puri
The first meeting with Om Puri Saheb was in 1979. I came to Bombay (now Mumbai) for the first time. Puri Saheb was rehearsing a drama ‘Scorpion’ in Prithvi Theater. My elder brother Ranjit Kapoor was directing that drama. Puri Saheb was playing the main role in it. At that time he was struggling. While my elder brother was the top drama director. At that time I was in the first year of college.
Om Puri and Seema Kapoor married after a relationship for 11 years
Wanted to separate after one and a half years of marriage
It is a matter of 1992. After one and a half years of marriage, Puri Saheb wanted to separate from me. Another woman Nandita had come in her life. Puri Saheb wanted to marry her, at that time I was pregnant. Puri Sahab had sent divorce papers. Under that stress, he lost his baby in a womb of 5-6 months. I did not share my grief with anyone. Not even from his parents. My parents were already unhappy, he did not want to make him unhappy by sharing his grief.
Used to call Nandita in front of me
Used to talk to Nandita for hours on the phone in front of me. I used to avoid. I did not feel sad to hear their words, so I used to go to another room. I did not want me to be sad to listen to them, do something react and fight. Puri saheb wanted to fight and break the relationship.
Divorce was considered a stigma in society
On one side the pain of breaking home, on the other side felt humiliated. I was released for another woman. Divorce was considered a stigma in the society 35 years ago. I did not get married to get divorce. When a woman marries, she wants a stability relationship.
Om Puri-limit camphor
Married after an affair of 11 years
I did not marry after an affair of up to 11 years, that the relationship should end in a year and a half. Did not understand that after being in a relationship for 11 years, what happened suddenly that after one and a half years of marriage, the relationship broke up.
Men liked others
The mentality of the man is that he wants to catch the flying butterfly. When he catches it, the beauty of that butterfly ends. I miss a lion of Nida Fazli Saheb. ‘What the world calls, is a toy of magic, if it is found, then if you are lost, you have gold.’ What is found does not have value. In the view of the feudalist thinking of men, only female object is considered. As soon as a man finds someone. He begins to look at others.
I did not want to get them by fighting
It was an insult to the femininity of a woman. We went to Arya Samaj and married. After that the reception was given. My love was lost after one and a half years of marriage. Puri Sahab went to court for the divorce, but I did not have to go to court. I said that I don’t want to fight. I do not have to get land and property and a man. There is no benefit from it. You can only achieve slavery by fighting, cannot get love.
Annu Kapoor is Seema Kapoor’s elder brother
Was that right step or wrong, don’t know
Before this, things would get spoiled and Puri Saheb’s hand rises, abusing him. I left home myself. I felt that he would be happy with Nandita. This was the right step or wrong, not knowing. Those who are worldly people said that the house was yours. You should not have left you, but I had no quarrel. I had never seen my parents fighting and fighting.
There was a ban on speaking the word youth in our house
We have been raised in a house where abuses were not allowed. Even the words youth could not speak. When I was 10 years old, the film ‘Aan Milo Sajna’ came. Rajesh Khanna’s song ‘There is all the time there is Tera Raj Hai, Jawani Woh Deewani Tu Zindabad’ was dancing with her younger brother. When the mother heard, she slapped a strong slap.
People consider a divorced woman as an object of enjoyment
The male society considers a divorced woman as an object of enjoyment. Thinks of making him happy in bed instead of consolation. This is the mentality of people, at that time a woman does not need it. He needs friendship, friendship, respect. Because she is already struggling with the insult of abandonment. He needs respect. There were some such directors. When she went to ask for work, she was very hurt to see her behavior.
Nandita began to bear
I have to face Nandita’s controversies from the beginning. Ever since she came in Puri Sahab’s life, I have also come into my life. I never said anything about Puri Saheb. He was happy to live with Nandita, I thought to be happy there. I separated. Well, there was a lot of trouble. Everything was alright of Puri Saheb, but there was a time when he started being tortured by Nandita. Then he might have realized his mistake.
Cry a lot on the phone and apologize
Puri Saheb had a major operation in London, there was only his secretary with him. He had a paralitic attack. He felt that if he could not escape, he had called to apologize from there. Every person has a gilt inside. Those artists were very good, a very emotional person. Now a mistake was made. A day before the operation, he called and cried from London, apologizes. He had said- Seema, forgive whatever I did to you. That relationship was very important for me too. The wounds are filled with time. I am such a person that anger in me does not last long. Is it good or bad I do not know.
After a few months of recovery, my house started coming to my house
His phone did not come again after a few months of the operation. I also did not think it appropriate to call from the front. His big name was, if God did not do anything, then the news would have been received. After a few months of recovery, they started coming to my house. Perhaps they must have been consolation from me. He had come close to me, he used to stay a little stagnant. He had problems with fighting fights with Nandita.
Om Puri-Nandita
Nandita started speaking against me
In 2011-12, Nandita spoke a lot of things against me. Puri sir used to tell me that you do not take any action, otherwise you will not let the child meet. There will be unnecessary quarrels. I did not give any response. When Nandita filed a domestic violence case on Puri Sahab, I gave an interview. With him, Nandita also filed a defamation case against me.
Never made any claim about property
That case went on, after Puri Saheb left, his lawyer did not come. I did not understand what was the loss of their value? After that he made another case that my car chases his child. When the police investigated, it was found that there was no such thing, he had filed a false case for mental harassment. After that, a case related to money was filed. While I have not made any claim about the property till date. Neither Puri Sahab has given me any property. While I could assert my right to Puri Saheb’s property, but I did not do anything like this. That case of Nandita was also dismissed.
The whole sir was upset due to Nandita’s book
In the year 2009, Nandita wrote Puri Saheb’s biography ‘Anlaikali Hero: The Story of Om Puri’. Puri Saheb was very upset because of that book. Puri Saheb was a character artist. There were very big artists at the international level. He had made his place with great hard work, but he was not a hero. Knowing is very fond of peeping into the hero’s bedroom. The character is not interested in knowing about the life of the artist and villain.
What was written about Puri Saheb was wrong
The things written about Puri Saheb’s affair in that book were wrong. Puri Saheb did not know about whether Nandita had given permission to write a book or not. Nor did you try to know about it, but it is my view that I should write very thoughtfully about another woman.
There is no justification for defaming a woman
Today, women who must have been a girlfriend of Puri Saheb at that time or with whom time will have spent time. She will be grandmother today. They should not be discredited. Puri would have been discrediting Saheb, because she was her husband. If the whole sir had a problem, he would have fought, but tarnishing the image of another woman is wrong.